In life, as in art, surprises break the tedious lack of variety. If it weren’t for them we’d chaff under the boredom of routine. Surprises are nice when they are pleasant, like when a tail end not-so-great batsman scores a century for your team - leaving you thrilled or when you find an old student’s comment on your post and feel a warm glow in your cardiac area. They can be overwhelming, as when your present student gifts you a Chanel perfume or when you find a 10 KD note tucked away in an old handbag.
Some surprises are so predictable. Don’t you feel distinctly unexcited on being given a cake again for your birthday just like last year……… and every other year? It’s like a poet put it, “Poor, dear, silly Spring, preparing her annual surprise!” It is strange because the absence of the cake might just leave you disappointed. The mind is a strange thing. It craves novelty – at least mine does. Which is why I feel at loss when asked what I’d like as a gift. How would I know? However I do prefer being asked rather than be given some electronic gadget over which I have to feign excitement. (I think I should correct and say that the female mind is a strange thing.)
The element of surprise and creativity are great in a marriage. It isn’t only the love notes in the lunchbox variety. As the couple settle into familiarity that borders on routine or contempt(can’t say which is worse), the ability to surprise (still) with a teasing smile or even a rare flare of temper can make some waves that offer respite from a deadly inertia. Opening the door to find your not-hirsute-anymore husband do a dance step for you might seem silly, but the shared humor and memory could be a strong building block.
Now you know what trigered this post. Humph
Some surprises are so predictable. Don’t you feel distinctly unexcited on being given a cake again for your birthday just like last year……… and every other year? It’s like a poet put it, “Poor, dear, silly Spring, preparing her annual surprise!” It is strange because the absence of the cake might just leave you disappointed. The mind is a strange thing. It craves novelty – at least mine does. Which is why I feel at loss when asked what I’d like as a gift. How would I know? However I do prefer being asked rather than be given some electronic gadget over which I have to feign excitement. (I think I should correct and say that the female mind is a strange thing.)
The element of surprise and creativity are great in a marriage. It isn’t only the love notes in the lunchbox variety. As the couple settle into familiarity that borders on routine or contempt(can’t say which is worse), the ability to surprise (still) with a teasing smile or even a rare flare of temper can make some waves that offer respite from a deadly inertia. Opening the door to find your not-hirsute-anymore husband do a dance step for you might seem silly, but the shared humor and memory could be a strong building block.
Of course, there are the nasty ones too – like when a married, 26 year old girl addresses you as ‘Aunty’ and you turn around to see who the aging person is and then realize it is you yourself – that’s a nasty surprise, a terrible shock actually. The only consolation is that she calls your husband ‘Uncle’.
Now you know what trigered this post. Humph
7 comments:
loved this post :)
So should we all marry someone like the Joker from the movie - Batman? Or maybe a Tracy Jordan from 30 Rock?
And which idiot girl called you aunty, aunty?
Anush
Yes well there are surprises and there are surprises. Like me getting nose-ring not much of a surprise. But me getting a tattoo- awesome surprise :D
and wha-??? What dance step????
Anush
Surprises are surprises when they are surprises - you don't want perpetual shock. So get someone sane with just a few quirks :)
You Idiot Boy, you dare not >:(
Atomica
I know you won't give me nasty surprises. :)
And you always take pains to give the most thoughtful gifts and organise amazing surprises. I Trust You :D
Will demonstrate the dance story in person :)
Anu aunty feels nice somehow better than babu uncle! but nothing to beat 'Golden Uncle'! :))
Baata
It was bad enough when everyone thought I was your elder sister :I
You better get gray fast and then Babu Uncle will sound just fine. Poor Golden Uncle was more upset than I was :D
The Temptation to be unpredictable is burgeoning within me... you better be prepared :P
And I'll hold you to that :D
Ps: What 'golden uncle'??
@Atom
:)
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